When you really don’t want to be at work

Do you know those days, when you are doing everything right, but you just can’t seem to build any momentum. You are going through the motions, but you never quite gain traction. It can be frustrating.

I’ve found that the best thing to do is to step back, take a breath, and remember the reason you’re there. That always seems to help me regain my focus and buckle down again.

Here are a few things to help you regain your clarity.

Recognize exactly WHAT you are doing

You go to work every day and do what?

You perform a function… you engage in a process that you have been told is necessary to successfully do your “job”, but what does that really mean?

It’s important to realize that you are more than the job that you do. It does not matter what you do, your job may be a part of you, but it is not all of you!

On the days you feel disconnected from your job, realize that’s ok. Your job does not define who you are and should not control you.

Psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, who is best known for his concept of Flow, put it like this…

I believe he clarifies that statement with this one…

Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, 1990

You see, you are in control of how you experience your job. At least, you should be. Remember that.

Remember exactly WHY you are doing it

For years I have taught a concept I call p³Clarity. This concept is founded on the principal that your primary reason for doing anything should be based on your passions. You should be doing what is natural and inspiring to you. Your efforts, whether professionally or personally, should be driven by your underlying values and purpose.

Steve Jobs is credited for saying…

I believe this is true. It may be even more true in our modern day where there is so much influence making its way into our minds. Everything is trying to impress upon us what everyone else and the world thinks is important. I’d suggest you trust yourself first.

Step back and make sure that you are doing what you should be doing. Once you now that, and you remember the reasons WHY, you will never feel too far from your true center.

Spend less time worrying about HOW to do it

In my p³Clarity concept, I don’t address the how, or as I teach it the Process, until last. I believe too many people get caught up in how they are supposed to do things. The problem is, who really knows how?

I’m not saying that time and experience haven’t taught us the best way to go about a certain process. What I’m saying is that you should be focused first on your passions for WHY you are doing things, then eventually you can focus on the how, because it will come naturally if you are doing what you were meant to do anyway.

I believe that when we are engaged in our passions, we will very naturally feel how we should be doing it. Let go and just be.


So, the next time you are having one of those days where you just don’t feel like being there, step back and revisit WHAT you are doing, WHY you are doing it, and stop stressing about HOW you should be doing it. You will likely find that you have a little more left in your tank and are able to push through the day. In fact, you just might find that you enjoy it again.

Make every day purposeful. Seek out ways to align your efforts with the desires and passions of your heart that make you feel truest to being you. Then, it may not feel like work at all.


Question: When was the last time you remembered what you are passionate about? How did it feel? Leave a comment below.

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