There’s a song on country radio right now by Tim McGraw titled “Humble and Kind” which I feel teaches important lessons for anyone willing to learn them.
For me, it speaks to the idea of remembering what matters most in life. It’s a song that I believe everyone should hear at least once, and I feel the Upright Man should memorize its lessons.
Listen to it here
Read the lyrics here
Hold the door, say please, say thank you… Don’t steal, don’t cheat, and don’t lie…
I’ve been asked why I have a chivalry and etiquette section for posts. The reason is that these topics have always been important to me. In fact, those topics are a very large part of why I started this platform.
My mother made sure to teach her four sons the importance of good manners. Because she never had the chance to raise daughters, she was particularly careful to make sure we learned about chivalry and how to treat women.
With this as my background, you can understand why it’s my belief that the majority of issues within any society comes down to the home. No other social success will ever compensate for failure in the homes and families of that society.
This isn’t about religion or lifestyle, it’s about ethics. Where there are loose morals and weak ethics, there will follow weakness in character. I believe this is the problem with the world today.
So I go back to the lyrics of the song. You should use the manners the way you were taught when you were young. Don’t cheat or steal.
There was a time when a man’s word alone was good enough for a binding contract. Live to be that way now, where others know they can trust you, and know you are a man of integrity.
When those dreams you’re dreaming come to you, when the work you put in is realized…
You have every right to work hard and be rewarded for it. I believe our Higher Power gave each of us unique abilities and talents with which to accomplish all we could in our lives.
When we succeed from our honest efforts, we should give thanks and enjoy it. We should not be ashamed of our successes. But we should also not become foolishly prideful.
As the song teaches, let yourself feel the pride of your accomplishments, but remain humble and kind about it.
Share your successes, especially with those who supported you along the way, but don’t brag about them.
Don’t intentionally rub it in to a defeated opponent. They know they lost, and you are less of a winner if you act that way.
Don’t hold a grudge or a chip and here’s why, bitterness keeps you From flying…
One line from the song in particular that has stuck out to me recently is this one. If you’ve gone through a divorce, you now about bitterness.
It has been a constant battle for me to bury my bitterness and hurt. I feel as thought I was cheated out of a life, however simple, that I had worked hard for.
I’ve learned something since the divorce though, and that is the fact that I will never feel good about myself when I am holding on to bitterness. There is no longer a right or wrong in this fight, because the fight is over.
Holding on to any grudge is only holding me down. Any time I am closed minded and focused on my selfish feelings of being “right”, I regret it.
It was actually my ex who helped teach me this. We take our turns being the strong one, but she has been wonderful to interact with at times. I’m grateful to her for that.
I always wish to be much more than the person I’ve been. I can’t do that if I insist on holding on to the past. Much the way a bird would be held back if it clung to the branch it’s trying to soar away from, holding on to hurt or pain you’re trying to leave behind will only keep you from getting off the ground.
Let yourself feel the pride, but always stay humble and kind
As you work on refining yourself in the ways this song suggests, you will find yourself growing, succeeding, and accomplishing great things.
Let yourself feel the pride of that accomplishment, but don’t forget the person you were.
Don’t forget who helped you get there. Don’t forget the blessings of a Higher Power which helped you magnify your talents and skills to reach your goals.
I believe you can find greater happiness by adhering to the principles of this song. Learn and grow. Become the better version of yourself that you want to be, and let yourself feel good about it.
Let yourself feel the pride, but always stay humble and kind.
Question: What words of wisdom you learned when you were younger have guided your life? Leave a comment below.